During a divorce, it is typically unwise to let negative emotions — like jealousy, anger and bitterness — take control. Doing so could drag out a divorce, compromise your settlement and possibly even undermine your parenting rights.
Having said that, you don’t need to ignore these feelings and always play nice. Your divorce settlement can affect you for the rest of your life, and you may need to fight for what you deserve. Below, we examine a few scenarios in which a person may need to be more assertive than amicable.
When there are false allegations of abuse
False allegations of abuse can destroy families and the reputation of the wrongfully accused. As such, it is crucial that you are vigorous in defending yourself if your ex falsely accuses you of violence or abuse.
When you really want something
Being agreeable during property division negotiations can help the process move along more easily. However, as this Reuters article discusses, money matters should be approached carefully. Property division will almost certainly involve compromise, but if there is something you really want — like spousal support or a family heirloom — you may need to dig your heels in to make that happen. Though, you should still be prepared to negotiate.
When your child’s safety is in danger
Protecting children during a divorce is often a parent’s top priority. If you feel that your child is in danger, then you will want to be aggressive in pursuing legal remedies to protect him or her.
Knowing when to fight and when to play nice
The divorce process is not typically all amicable or all contentious. There will be times when it is best to compromise and play nice to move the process along, and there may be times when a person needs to push back and fight for what they want. An attorney experienced in divorce and resolving family law matters can help you examine each situation and weigh your options so that you can respond appropriately.