At this point, everyone knows that divorce is challenging for the children. At a time when they need the most stability and consistency in their lives, everything seems to be in upheaval and change.
But there are things you can do as a father to help your children. If you are committed to helping your kids through the process, you can help them through this difficult time and still raise happy, healthy children.
What You Can Do
- Commit to your kids: The most important thing for your children during this time is to know you are not giving up on them and that you will always be there for them. You can express this verbally to them and make sure you follow through with your actions, as well.
- Be consistent: To counteract the upheaval your kids are experiencing, you can make sure to always be there on time to pick them up, establish clear routines for them when they are in your care, and stay as consistent as possible emotionally.
- Work with your ex: If the kids see you working with your ex-wife and you avoid talking badly about her in their presence, it will do wonders to make them feel more stable during this transitional time.
- Have fun: Divorce and its immediate aftermath is a difficult time for most dads, and it can be hard to stay relaxed. But take time to have fun with your kids. Throw a football, go see a movie and do those little things that help everyone laugh and enjoy your time together.
These are just a few ideas to help you. The most important thing is your commitment to helping your kids and being there for them during this difficult time of adjustment for them.