If you have told your friends and family that you are getting a divorce, it is likely that you are going to be peppered with advice about what you should do and how you should feel. Indeed, they probably have best interests in mind, but their advice may not really help you when it comes to making sure the process works for you and is within your budget.
With that, we offer a number of tips to help you avoid protracted litigation or mistakes that could cost you more money.
Keep family and friends at a distance – Of course, friends and family want to support you, but they can be agitators instead of facilitators (i.e. instigators instead of negotiators). As such, it may be best to keep friends and family at a distance while making decisions during divorce.
Consider mediation before litigation – Because divorce is such an emotionally charged process, it is easy to choose litigation to get a measure of revenge from their soon-to-be ex-spouse. While this may feel like a good idea from an emotional standpoint, it is an expensive proposition where both parties often are not satisfied with the result. Because of this, all divorcees should consider mediation before digging in their heels.
Stay off of social media – Emotion filled rants (often fueled by alcohol) posted on Facebook or Twitter are discoverable pieces of evidence that can used in family court proceedings. With that said, if you don’t want a judge reading it, don’t post it on social media.
If you additional questions about what to avoid during custody and parenting time litigation, an experienced family law attorney can help.