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Many men tell stories of their struggles with divorce. Once the papers are filed, they find themselves embroiled in a world they hardly recognize. Their spouse makes wild assertions or makes unrealistic demands.

They want full custody of the children, they want to limit the time a father gets to spend with their children. They make outlandish requests for spousal or child support. In response, you want to get angry and make similar demands that are equally ridiculous.

But now is not the time to descend to that level. Such behavior will only make you look less responsible and less sympathetic to the court. And, as a side note, it is unlikely to increase your respect in the eyes of your children.

The important thing to keep in mind is developing factually based evidence to respond to and refute any of the outlandish assertions made by your spouse.  And keep your expectations realistic. If you earn 80 percent of the family income before the divorce, don’t expect to receive child support payments from your spouse just because you have shared parenting time.

The more solid evidence you can provide on every issue, evidence support by facts, not simply opinion or baldly asserted statements, with the aggressive support of an attorney who understands how to represent fathers rights in a divorce, the better chance you have of receiving a reasonable settlement from a Missouri family court.

During a divorce, your spouse may become irrational. But you will not gain by responding in kind. Working with your attorney to highlight the irrationality in a very rational fashion, by meticulously undercutting her claims is likely to produce the best result for your case.

Source:, “The Non-Rational Divorce,” Off Parent, February 29, 2016

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