We live in a society where people tend to bottle up their emotions. Especially when it comes to men, the idea of just sucking it up and getting through a tough emotional time is considered a norm. But, keeping emotions in during a divorce — regardless of gender — is dangerous and does not promote healthy healing.
The first thing to realize is that emotions are going to come up during a divorce. However, instead of just keeping them in, let them out in a healthy way. For example, exercise can be great for blowing off some steam when particularly angry. And, for those who are rather private people yet still need someone to talk with, professional help can work wonders.
Now is also not the time to make any rash decisions. Not only could this end up negatively effecting a divorce settlement, but it could affect the rest of a person’s life. This means that while it may feel like a clean break, it is not time to move to another state or change careers right after filing for divorce. Especially when kids and visitation rights are involved, make sure to think about how any decisions could affect future time with the children.
When going through a divorce, some may want to go through it alone from an emotional and legal standpoint. While this may seem like something that can be done, it is recommended against. Instead, aside from seeking professional help and support from friends and family, also talk with an attorney to make sure the best legal interests are being kept in mind throughout this difficult time.
Source: Huffington Post, “5 Common Divorce Mistakes,” Allison Pescosolido, April 8, 2013